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If you do find yourself faced with the decision to end fertility treatment, but you're not sure how to go about finalizing it, there are several steps that may help you determine what's best for you. Consider establishing a time frame. It sometimes helps to make a schedule for yourself, even if you decide to modify it later. You could decide, for example, that you will try for another year, or until your next birthday.
Another step that might be helpful is to take a brief "vacation" from treatment. Depending on your feelings after a break, you may realize that you're not ready to stop as yet; or that now is the time to end treatment.Infertility, with its endless tests and treatments, has probably meant that so far your life has been put on "hold". But, through grieving and resolving your grief, you can move on again. Remember, you need to finish mourning for the loss of your child before making this decision. Grieving is letting go - letting go of unfulfilled dreams and replacing them with a comfortable reality, to allow resolution.
Talk to others who have decided to move on. This is especially helpful if you are having difficulty deciding what to do next. Ask others how they made the decision and how they feel about it now. Additionally, professional counselling can be very helpful in assisting you with decision making.
Finally, accept and expect that your infertility will remain a part of you. The decision to stop treatment brings resolution and closure, but it may not necessarily remove the ache of infertility. However, once you do accept your decision, you may find that your disappointment gradually disappears.
© Dr. Aniruddha Malpani and Dr. Anjali Malpani www.drmalpani.com
Credits: How to Have a Baby: Overcoming Infertility
