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It stands to reason that if you want to feel differently, you should do things differently.
While we all feel some level of comfort at the sameness of traditions, it's important to open a window in your world now and then, take a look at other sights, and consider adding new traditions to your world.
Give yourself permission to do things that do not include children during holidays. Again, if being around children brings only joy and light to your heart, then do it! But if, like many infertile people, hearing children's voices brings a tear to your eye and pain to your heart, find alternatives to socializing.
Finding alternatives can be particularly difficult if you live in a rural or sparsely populated area. Is it possible to take a vacation or even short trip to either more remote or larger metropolitan areas? Depending on whether you're seeking quiet time or a party atmosphere, literally getting away from where you deal daily with infertility can be thoroughly refreshing.
Again, you may open the eyes of some family and friends when you choose to do things differently. If you've already been open with them about your struggles, simply tell them that you're going to try the "relaxation method" during holidays. If you have not disclosed your fertility issues, tell them you've decided it's good for your relationship and that you'll spend special time with family later.
© Tracy Morris
