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Tracy: At what point in their process do you usually see clients initially, and what point do you feel is the most beneficial time to seek assistance such as that which you offer?
Coach: Ideally a client would call as soon as she or the couple found out that getting pregnant would be a struggle for them. In reality, I don't usually hear from people until they are really in pain.
Gaining skills to cope with the unfeeling questions of friends and family; learning to support each other as a couple; Building coping skills for grieving; adding stress management techniques to the interminable waiting, etc. are all skills that would be helpful to learn right at the beginning of infertility.
Tracy: If there was any particular message that you'd like to get across to readers, what would it be?
Coach: I have always wished that if you worked hard for something, you would get it. I think one of life's hardest lessons is: THAT ISN'T TRUE. You can work hard and hope for what you want, but hard work is not a guarantee. And I think personally that is why the infertility work appeals to me.
All of these couples who want a baby so badly are willing to do incredible work to get a baby in their lives - whether it's charting temps or learning to give injections or working harder at your job to pay for treatments or working to juggle everything you have to juggle to make those RE appointments...
I want them to get that baby. And you and I both know that it doesn't always happen, no matter how hard they work or how much effort to do it right is put into the infertility process........ and that's what breaks my heart....and what keeps me in it.
It is so important for women and couples undergoing infertility to get support and move out of isolation. Do whatever you can to find that support - use Internet chat rooms and listserves, get active in any local infertility groups.
If it's difficult to get out of the house, come to one of my teleclasses - many of them are free. It's easy and fun to participate - even if you are a shy person. All you need is a telephone and the willingness to spend an hour of long distance - which in today's world can be as little as $3 for an hour.
© Tracy Morris
