So far everyone has been really supportive of our IVF efforts. I think my mom was the one who made me the most sad, though, because I would ask her to pray for the next step in our journey with IVF and she would always say, “I’ll pray for the Lord’s will.” It made me feel frustrated and sad, but I knew that she also wasn’t necessarily excited about us trying to have kids. I think she may have felt that children could be really burdensome and that we had a wonderful life enjoying ourselves together, so why mess with it? (She said this on several occasions when I kept telling her we wanted to have a baby.) She did have five, and I don’t think she ever had the opportunity to just be herself, she was always a mom from a very young age. My dad was of the same opinion too, that kids are a lot of work, so just don’t worry about it and enjoy yourself. My twin was the most excited about the whole thing. She is more open minded and has several children and has been dying for me to join the kiddie queue for a long time. Truthfully, most people in our family just assumed we didn’t want kids for the longest time because we didn’t have them. And for the first years of our marriage, we really just enjoyed it being the two of us. I was never particularly careful about BC, but wearing the patch made it easy, and I just thought, “Oh, if it happens, great!” I seriously thought we would have a little surprise somewhere along the way like most people, but when that didn’t happen by the time I had turned 34 (now about to turn 38) we knew something was up. No one on my husband’s side of the family, save one couple, has a child (one) of the immediate cousins. There are cousins who live farther away that do, so support was never really felt. However, and this is the MOST important part to my ramble, BOTH my husband and I from the get go knew and understood that we were having this child to please OURSELVES and NO ONE ELSE so who cares what they think! Sure, we’d like their approval, but ultimately we will be the ones caring for the little one, not them, so whether we do or whether we don’t and how we have to go about it is our decision. They don’t get an opinion, but they may offer support. If they can’t do that, they just became a serious non-priority on my list! Once we became pregnant, though, my mom has come around and been more supportive and my dad has fun bantering around “bad baby names” on purpose just to be funny. Give them time, they’ll either come around, or be low man on your totem pole. But once they see everyone else supporting you, they won’t want to be left out of all the family excitement, and they’ll come around, but probably slowly. Remember, older people are slower to change their opinions. Once they understand the IVF process, it might make it easier for them to grasp that this is just as much a God-has-to-intervene-to give-life thing as is the normal route of conception. You can water a seed, but you can’t make it grow-that is still up to God. Hopefully, they’ll come to understand that sooner than later.