Chapter 50

The Infertile Patient’s Prayer and Infertility

Lord, Give me Strength…

  • To keep my cool when another period starts.
  • To keep my chin up when a co-worker announces her pregnancy.
  • To have a good relationship with my friend in spite of her ability to conceive easily and not be jealous of her.
  • To endure my sister-in-law’s comments about toilet training.
  • To keep from crying when I see children begging on the roads.
  • To forgive my doctor when he keeps me waiting for two hours for a consultation – and then can’t remember my name.
  • To make the right decision about treatment.
  • To maintain a good relationship with my husband in spite of all this.

It’s helpful to remember the Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr. ” God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can change, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Infertility is…

  • Watching your husband playing with your friend’s baby and wishing you could give him one of his own.
  • Telling nurses to please take blood from your right arm because the veins in your left arm are all gone because of all the IVs you’ve had.
  • Avoiding people you haven’t seen for a long time because you don’t want to hear the question, “Do you have any kids yet?”.
  • Feeling very left out when your friends start comparing their pregnancy or childbirth experiences.
  • Feeling like the whole town is pregnant except for you.
  • Getting tired of people always expecting you to do things because “you don’t have any kids to worry about”.
  • Waking up in the middle of the night and wishing you could hear your baby crying.
  • Wishing you could give your parents grandchildren.
  • Wanting to fall apart if one other person says, “Why don’t you adopt?” Easy, right?
  • Sometimes avoiding friends who are pregnant or with newborns because you just can’t handle the situation at that moment.

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Credits: How to Have a Baby: Overcoming Infertility

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